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Marriage, Family, and Relationships

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While there was a limited attachment system for most of the first year of the game with the March 2012 expansion update the social interactions and level of attachment for couples in FreePlay was expanded considerably, with the game finally adding the mechanisms for getting engaged, moving in with each other, and getting married as well as having children.

With this new expansion to the Relationships and noting the confusion that many gamers have had on how the relationship system works (based upon the questions being posted to the game section on including this section and a closer look at the process makes a lot of sense.

Friendship is advanced via the Be Nice Action while Romance has its own set of Actions
Friendship is advanced via the Be Nice Action while Romance has its own set of Actions

Relationship Building

There are basic progressive stages for Relationships in the game that can easily be divided up into unique chunks, bringing a three-stage definition to the process. Stage 1 is Friends, Stage 2 is Romance, and finally there is Stage 3, Family and Family Building.

Stage 1: Friends

There are four unique phases of the first stage (the initial phase, Stranger, does not really count), and these are:

  • Stranger

  • Acquaintance

  • Friend

  • Good Friend

  • Best Friend

Considering that the first two stages can both be accomplished by using the Be Nice action one time each, they represent a very easy 250 XP for each of your Sims to obtain with each other and, perhaps more important, with every Sim in your Neighbor Towns! That is some easy XP to pick up, just saying.

Stage 2: Romance

The next stage involves the process of creating a lasting bond and attachment for your pair, starting with romance and working your way to marriage. While the idea of needing to be married in order to begin a family has fallen out of favor in the real world, it is still a great idea in the Sim one.

  • Budding Romance

  • Date

  • Partners

  • Engaged

  • Married

In order to get the Stork to deliver children your Sims need to be married. Who says tradition is dead?
In order to get the Stork to deliver children your Sims need to be married. Who says tradition is dead?

Stage 3: Family and Family Building

Once your couple have reached the stage of marriage they are moved in together and are thus in a position to have children, which is accomplished via the baby cradle object, using a combination of Life Points and time.

Once the baby arrives, it will spend virtually all of its time in that cradle until the time comes that you have decided that they should mature to the Toddler Stage, which you accomplish first by Baking a Birthday Cake, which is required, and then holding their Birthday Party, an Event that instantly resolves in their entry into the next stage, which would be Toddler.

Baking a second cake and having a party is necessary for the next stage, and so on.

A Sample Relationship Path

Lee and Clara moved in together...

The first part of the process and the most obvious to begin with is relationship building. When your Sims first move into town they have no mates, no Relationships of any sort, and are in every sense a fresh clean slate.

So your first steps in building Relationships in the game should be directed towards simply making friends -- because not only is mateship the doorway to partnership, engagement, and marriage (and eventually kids) it is also a great way to pick up gobs of XP!

So how do we begin? By talking of course!

Whether the potential relationship is represented by another Adult Sim -- or by your new baby -- the process of building a relationship with them starts with communicating with them, in order to move through the different stages of relations, which encompass the following:

  • Stranger (N/A XP)

  • Acquaintance ( 100 XP) -- Adds the "Hand Shake" action.

  • Friend ( 150 XP)

  • Good Friend ( 200 XP)

  • Best Friend ( 300 XP)

  • Budding Romance ( 150 XP) -- Adds the "Kiss Hand" action.

  • Date ( 200 XP) -- Adds the "Kiss Cheek" action.

  • Partner ( 250 XP) --- Adds the "Woohoo" action.

  • Matrimony (350 XP)

Reaching Good Friend Level

When the Good Friend level has been attained it also adds the "Ask to Move In" selection, and the "Bro Hug" selection to the available interactions. Obviously the Ask to Move In selection is of more importance to us than the Bro Hug selection... I am just saying...

Reaching Best Friend Level

Once you have reached the Best Friend level you add the "Chest Bump" action. This is also a stopping point for regular relations as simply Being Nice is insufficient to raise the relationship level further -- to move above this point requires that the Sims make gestures and actions that enter into the love side of Relationships -- which means either Be Romantic, or Dance, or both.

Reaching Partner Level

It requires a fair but of work to raise your Sim relationship to the Partner Level, but getting there bringsyou very close to the ultimate goal of being married - and in fact the real goal as well since once you get your Sim relationship to this level that is one of the Goals that will pop up.

Maxing out the Partner Level adds the action "Propose Marriage" to the selections, so that is obviously your goal.


Once you have reached the Partner Level the next step in the process of relationship building is the obvious one of taking it "to the next level" by moving in together!

Ideally you should probably max-out the Partner level first just to make things quicker -- or not... It is really six of one, half-a-dozen of another, right?

You have the option of moving in together as Partners, or you can go the more traditional route and propose marriage prior to moving in together, though your intended will want you to pop the question at your house so that they can see what it looks like before they say yes :)

Once you select the Propose Marriage action you are presented with a choice of Engagement Rings that you can present to your beloved, which include:

  • Vending Machine Dinosaur Ring ($5,500)

  • Mood Ring ($16,500)

  • Silver Ring (5 Life Points)

  • White Gold Ring (10 Life Points)

  • Eternity Ring (20 Life Points)

Fair Warning about the ring -- you have to purchase it before you propose -- and if the ring does not meet the quality of your intended they will simply throw their hands up and not accept -- which leaves you out the cost of the ring and having to buy another (better) ring if you mean to try again...

Popping the Question with Feeling

Following your marriage you have the option of placing a baby cradle and then ordering your first born from the Stork -- a process that costs a large chunk of Life Points!

The cost of the first baby you obtain in the game is actually paid for as a sort of gift for you, with the game providing the Life Points that you need as well as a few extra since the process of getting married and having a baby are also Goals that are presented in a timely Fashion so that you get to experience the joy of becoming a parent without it breaking you...

Of course any future babies will cost you Life Points you have to supply yourself!

Relationship status is just the start - creating a comfortable home with enough activity objects is also important.
Relationship status is just the start - creating a comfortable home with enough activity objects is also important.

Relationship Building Menu Selections

In the case of an Adult Sim the options that you can choose from for positive relations take the form of chat and actions:

  • Ask to Move In (7 Seconds) 7 XP

  • Be Funny (10 Seconds) 15 XP

  • Be Nice (1 Minute) 30 XP

  • Be Romantic (1 Minute) 30 XP

  • Bro Hug (4 Seconds) 7 XP

  • Chest Bump (1 Second) 7 XP

  • Dance (10 Seconds) 15 XP

  • Hand Shake (2 Seconds) 7 XP

  • High-Five (1 Second) 7 XP

  • Kiss Cheek (2 Seconds) 7 XP

  • Kiss Hand (3 Seconds) 7 XP

  • Propose Marriage (2013 Seconds) 0 XP

  • Woohoo (5 Minutes) 15 XP

Negative actions include:

  • Be Rude (10 Seconds) 15 XP

  • Complain (1 Minute) 30 XP

Editing your new Bundle 'O Joy

In the case of parent or Adult and baby, the available selections are:

  • Cuddle (1 Minute) 33 XP

  • Entertain (1 Minute) 33 XP

  • Give Food (1 Minute) 33 XP

  • Change Diaper (8 Seconds) 3 XP

Being a Jody / Jodi

An interesting effect that you find in the game is when you have a Sim (male OR female) take their relationship beyond just Best Friends with another Sim (again, male OR female) who already has a Partner or Spouse is that, whether you know or have a relationship with their spouse or not, every positive level in relationship you gain with the Sim you are romancing, you gain an equal amount of hate from their partner/spouse.

So it seems that the game maintains a full connection between relations, even when your Sim is visiting a Neighbor's town and romancing!

BTW the Jody / Jodi reference is a military thing - when a guy wants to rag on another guy, they will mention that Jody is back home making it with their girl...

Raising Your Kids

When babies were first added to the game that was pretty much all that was there - babies. They laid in their crib, they could be interacted with, but that was all that there was to it.

Eventually the childhood code was added to the game though, so now once your infant has been alive for a certain amount of time, you can bake a Birthday Cake, have a Birthday Party, and they will mature to the next stage of their life.

The addition of the Kids Store in the game expands the options for things to buy them and things for them to do.

Once you get them to mature they can start attending School - assuming you have built one that is! You should seriously think about doing that.

And with that we nicely wrap up this section on Relationships -- and now it is time for you to ask your significant other to marry you, move in, and help you make a call to the Stork!

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Jun 24th 2018 Crazystrange_unihorn
Random Comment ZiZi Is Closing Down!!!! :c
ID #760942
Feb 16th 2016 jbdean
I'm trying to propose but I only get one ring choice the one that takes LP. I don't want to spend those as I don't have s lot. Why can't I access all the rings? Thanks.
ID #635833
Feb 14th 2016 Guest
It won't leave the partners stage to the budding romance
ID #635232
Nov 29th 2015 Guest
I try and I keep on tapping the crib but my sims don't want to they just shake their head and say 🚫. I only have a few hours to finish my quest for the baby bundle. Please help!
ID #629708
Nov 16th 2015 Guest
My sims are stuck at being partners and the bar is all pink, do you know what i can do to get them to be engaged?
ID #625693
Nov 24th 2015 Guest
same problem please tell what to do
ID #628019
Nov 25th 2015 Guest
U press propose marriage and they get to become partners
ID #628389
Nov 1st 2015 Guest
I am trying to complete the 'Love is in the air' quest but it won't go past the 'Form a budding Romance' part despite the fact they're already partners please help:/
ID #621490
Nov 2nd 2015 Guest
You have to find another sim to become a budding romance with. It doesn't pick up on the fact that they are already past that stage.
ID #621856
Oct 24th 2015 Guest
Help! I can't get my sims to make the double shot coffee. Please help me.😭
ID #619445
Dec 4th 2015 Guest
Check the direction of your coffee maker
ID #630898
Aug 31st 2015 Guest
Just keep on being romantic🐥🐥🐥
ID #604117
Oct 24th 2015 Guest
I can't make the double shot coffee!
Help me
ID #619434
Oct 1st 2015 Guest
Yeah I can't really do it thnx!!😭
ID #613042
Aug 26th 2015 Guest
How do you get the Sims to go out of there houses and speak to another?
ID #602564
Sep 19th 2015 Guest
Go to town map and then tap on the persons house you want to go to
ID #609723
Aug 14th 2015 Guest
How do I get passed the bff zone if I click be rude or complain it will go up but if I click be nice or be funny it will go down.. When I click complain and I'm almost done it will go back to good friend
ID #597944
Aug 16th 2015 Guest
How are we supposed to know it's your device?
ID #598924
Jul 28th 2015 Guest
Where is the home store
ID #590349
Jul 3rd 2015 Guest
I can't get past the bf zone someone help!? :(
ID #579426
Aug 18th 2015 Guest
You have to do follow all your quote s
ID #599703
Jun 18th 2015 Guest
Wow Thnks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that HELPED A LOT :D
ID #572133
May 13th 2015 Guest
ID #555804
May 11th 2015 Guest
Just to let u know this cite is so freakin useful and I'm really thankful for it thanks
ID #554993
May 4th 2015 Guest
How do you get more LP because I need 4 more to grow my baby up. I haven't played sims freeplay for ages and normally they give you 5 because they say 'Are you having trouble completing your quest? Let us top up your LP for you...' But they did not do that!!! I want to grow my baby up to a teen one day because my daughter (in the game) is a teen and I want them two to date. Please help I would totally appreciate it. Thank you! Smile Smile Smile Smile
ID #551638
Apr 6th 2015 Guest
Why won't my sim parents interact with their baby?
ID #538802
Apr 6th 2015 Guest
To get the marriage bar up, you have to do negative actions. Once it is filled, that's it. You can't go any further.
ID #538673
Apr 6th 2015 Guest
How do you get passed bff zone?
ID #538552
Mar 28th 2015 Guest
I can't get past the best friend stage what do I do someone help me plz
ID #534049
Nov 29th 2015 Guest
You can't go past the best friend stage, that is the highest status for friends. If your sims are already beat friends, they can't go any higher.
ID #629584
Apr 28th 2015 Guest
First you have to complete the money grows on trees quest & then you will complete the love is in the air quest to make the sims start having a romantic relationship with one another.
ID #549141
Aug 25th 2015
Thank you so much 🍻
ID #602346
Apr 28th 2015 Guest
Just keep doing stuff to your sims or taking them to work or just collating non the town map
ID #549048
Mar 17th 2015 Guest
All my floor has turned blue plz help!!
ID #529836
Jun 14th 2015 Guest
This means you've changed the colour of the carpet Smile
ID #570165
Mar 11th 2015 Guest
Okay so I noticed that if two sims are married or in a romantic relationship & they aren't romantic with each other for a while the relationship bar turns from pinkish to blue which means still partners but only friendly BORING how can I get my relationships back romantic I keep doing romantic gestures but nothing is happening
ID #527313
Jun 26th 2015 KittyCatSeaus
That's happening to me too!
ID #575991
Feb 22nd 2015 Guest
I can't get the marriage bar up or in my tool bar I can't finger baby crib
ID #519870
Feb 21st 2015 Guest
But after their married thine how do you get the bar to go all the way up thet says married please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!

think you (:
ID #519401
May 9th 2015 Guest
Use the action complain but then that's as far as it goes up
ID #554077
Feb 19th 2015 Guest
Ok somehow I made a baby and I forgot to give it a last name , and when I made the baby some it got transferred to another Sims house that is not married, is a single and a male. I have no idea how to move the baby sim out to it original family. My grown-up Sim in that house with the baby ,the guy I moved him out so now I have a baby (in crib) living on its own and I don't know how to move a baby and it's still in the crib and I have no idea how to put it back to its original family it just transferred it to a different Sims house.
ID #518267
Jun 26th 2015 KittyCatSeaus
Wow I am so sorry
ID #575993
Feb 16th 2015 Guest
I can't get my sims onto the budding romance part if you can help it would be much appreciated thanks
ID #516739
Feb 15th 2015 Guest
How do starters get to the main store
ID #516584
Feb 14th 2015 Guest
If you have a baby and then get divorced and move with a friend well the baby move with you and your friend are stay in the house
ID #516125
Feb 12th 2015 Guest
how do you get the marrige bar up?
ID #515082
Feb 9th 2015 Guest
Help!!!! I was promised a wedding bundle if I got my sims married in a certain number of hours, I did but I can't find the bundle!!! Please help me!!
ID #513838
Jun 12th 2015 Guest
the wedding bundle is supposed to be in your wardrobe or a closet. Once you click on the closet/wardrobe click on the Browse Clothes. Hope that helps Smile
ID #569395
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