The Sims 3 Walkthrough and Guide

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The Sims 3 Guide - Life Guide



Starting a family in The Sims 3 is still a pretty easy thing to do. Pick your Sim and chat them up, using the guide above. It will probably take a few days to really get them on-side, but you shouldn't feel you have to wait too long before making any serious commitments – things move a lot faster in the game than in real life! It is possible to get along with most Sims in the game, regardless of personal differences – as long as you avoid offending them.

Of course, you can create a family when you first start the game, but sowing the seeds of a great family dynasty in the game is by far the most interesting way to go about it. To show that you are serious about a relationship, use the romantic conversation actions to progress.

Building up a steamy relationship is crucial if you hope to start a family.

Both of these can nudge your relationship into the world of romance, as opposed to the doldrums of friendship. If your Sim is rejected, change the subject and give romance with the target a miss for a while – they can start to think your Sim is a stalker if you persist for too long! Friendships can take a real hit if you don't accept how the other person feels early enough. Sure, you can try again, just not right away.

Once the relationship reaches the romantic stage, use more compliments, hugs and kisses to move it onto the next level: Love.

Use the Propose Going Steady action to make you and your love interest partners. At this stage, such a move rarely fails – just make sure you are on a role with romantic actions in the conversation before attempting it.

You can then Propose Marriage, and either Have Private Marriage (use the action on your partner) or Get Married (while at a party you have thrown) to make it official.

Having Children:

The best indicator that both parties want to have children come with Wishes – they'll tell you they want children. You can of course set it in motion as soon as the Try For Baby action appears in the menu (once one Sim thinks the other is Irresistible (in the top-left corner, Try for Baby and WooHoo actions open up). After this is complete, you will then (if successful, as indicated by a positive noise shortly afterwards) have to deal with pregnancy for a few days.

TIP: Having problems conceiving? There is a Fertility Lifetime Reward that you can buy from the Lifetime Rewards menu. This increases the chance of conception and of having twins or triplets.

Like in real life, pregnant Sims are prone to mood swings, depression, ecstasy and physical changes in their appearance.

Pregnancy Tips:

While much of what happens during the pregnancy, such as the number of children (i.e. twins or triplets), the traits of the baby and its gender are down to chance, there are some things you can do during the pregnancy to swing fate in your favour.

Twins and Triplets: Listen to children's radio and watch children's TV.

Boy or Girl: Eating lots of apples boosts your chances of having a boy, whereas watermelon does the same for girls.

Traits: Keeping the mother happy and reading the pregnancy books available at Divisadero Books (the mother and father may have wishes to read these too) allows you to pick the traits at birth. Depending on how well the pregnancy went, you can pick both, one, or none of the traits. Disastrous pregnancies will lead to negative traits being picked by the evil computer.

Having a baby may only take a few days in The Sims 3, but the experience will stay with your Sims for the rest of their lives – and the nature of the pregnancy will stay with the child.

TIP: Sims in the Medical profession can offer advice to mothers-to-be to help it all go more smoothly.

TIP: You can also adopt babies, children and teens in The Sims 3. Select the Adoption Service from the telephone's Services menu to start this off.

Age Transitions


Babies are pretty easy to look after in The Sims 3. The hardest thing is trying to keep your adult Sims happy while being woken up at very inconvenient times every night. Make sure you put the baby to sleep when it's tired, change it when it's dirty, and feed it when it's hungry. There is little else to worry about at this stage – babies can't really do much in The Sims 3, though you can play with it and give it attention.

TIP: Don't ignore your baby or the Social Worker may come round – they can even take your baby away!

The age transition from baby to toddler is one of The Sims 3's most remarkable moments.


Toddler is the first really crucial stage in a child's development. As they can crawl around, toys come into play and can keep toddlers amused for hours. The main things you need to worry about at this point are:

Teaching your child to walk
Teaching your child to talk
Teach your child to use the potty

All three of these can be achieved using actions while interacting with your child. Unlike babies however, they do care about how much fun they are having – so make sure you buy them enough toys and give them plenty of attention.

The reason teaching toddlers the crucial life skills is so important is because it allows you to pick their third trait (the other two are picked depending on how well the pregnancy went, at birth). If you fail to teach the skills to your child, the chances are this third trait (which is then picked automatically), will be negative. Buy the First Step Potty Chair to allow potty training to take place.

TIP: Other Sims seem to enjoy interacting with toddlers as much as the child enjoys the attention!

Teaching a toddler the basics of life is absolutely essential for their success later on in life.


School comes into play during the Child stage, and a parent's interactions begin to have a much greater effect on the child. Ensuring that your child does their homework allows them to get an A at school, and such high achievers can then pick their next Trait when the age transition occurs.

Children can now also make real friends. They can leave the house to visit friends, other lots, and of course school, and are able to look after themselves to a good degree. Children can also learn the Fishing and Painting skills.

TIP: Every stage in development is crucial to building up a healthy relationship with their parents.


The most unpredictable age, as many will attest to, teenagers in the Sims can take part-time jobs as well as suffering from all the responsibilities of a child at school. They can also learn all the skills in the game. Teenagers can have romantic relationships, though only to a certain extent. Once again, grades must be kept high to achieve the final trait choice.

TIP: A teen's rebellious streak can be nurtured by keeping them out after the 23:00 curfew.

Children and teenagers both have the responsibilities of school to deal with.


Teenagers are in school for one hour less than children, finishing at 14:00, making more time for the important part-time jobs and socialising. Students can also work on their homework at school, sleep in class and make friends while at school. By far the best way to get good grades, however, is to Work Hard and do homework at home and on time!

Children and teenagers can also get detention from cheating on homework or sleeping in class!

Much like jobs, children can receive and make the most of various opportunities at school.

Keep the good grades up and the child can make it onto the Honor Roll (three days of straight As). Doing homework every night using the book in the child's inventory is the biggest contributor to good grades. Failing to do so will see grades drop. Adults can also help children with their homework, and those with the Logic skill complete it quicker. If the development of your child was good, they will often do the homework voluntarily. Trying to get a disobedient child to do so is a great deal more difficult!

Young Adult and Adult:

Basically everything in this guide thus far is relevant to adults. There is nothing they can't do, but preparing for old age should be a goal after the Young Adult stage has been passed. Ensuring your Sim has a good pension, a supportive family and a good quality of life are all crucial for the next transition.

Retirement gives Elders the chance to appreciate the finer things in life.


Surprisingly, Elder Sims can do everything that adults can, including careers – so you haven't lost your chance to achieve that Lifetime Wish for your Sim once they reach this stage.

TIP: Use Life Fruits (eat them), Ambrosia (eat it) and Death Blossoms (keep it in your inventory to give to the Grim Reaper) to help keep away from death's door for a little longer.

Death is, naturally, the final stage of life, even in The Sims 3.

TIP: Change the aging speed in the game's menu to make each of these last much longer. Sometimes things move a little too quickly at the default speed to really enjoy.


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How do you edit the relationship of an adopted child? I adopted 3 boys and 2 of which I used the dads phone to do and the other with the mothers phone. When I look at their relationship it says the 2 I used the dads phone for are his kids and the one is the moms kid. How do I change it so that all 3 boys are brothers and share both the mom and dad?

Added 3rd Dec 2014, ID #480005

love how the maid just goes back to making the bed lol .. All in a days work!!

Added 31st Oct 2014, ID #465482

Not being rude, just saying that you can't adopt teens in the game. Babies, Toddlers, and Children only.

Added 29th Oct 2014, ID #464877

the video when a sim died wasn't that creepy, but the music made it a little scarier than it is

Added 27th Mar 2014, ID #368761

Any tips?

Added 18th Mar 2014, ID #365427

the last video was sooo creepy, but great tutorials thanks!!

Added 4th Jan 2013, ID #236749

that was freken crazy that death guy vocie

Added 5th Dec 2012, ID #215424

she had to see that and plus wat does death guy do?!?! at least i wasnt maid otherwise id freak out!

Added 23rd Nov 2012, ID #211728

well Betsy went to the death door which is very very dark and boring and the maid got married to jack and jack died so the maid was so lonely she killed herself with a butcher Knife but the Grim just punched her in the face at 3:00 am in the morning and he killed her with his spear thingie

The End

Added 18th Nov 2012, ID #209806

it will be fun

Added 16th Oct 2012, ID #197096

i am going to having fun

Added 5th Oct 2012, ID #191704

i think it will be fun.

Added 24th Sep 2012, ID #188743

I would just love to say if You want a successful family,every member should have lucky, friendly, genius,and flirty. The last is probably your liking.

Added 21st Aug 2012, ID #178641

betsy was still a child when the mum died and when the dad got old !

Added 20th Mar 2012, ID #124693

i would luv to be in this and i am

Added 8th Mar 2012, ID #121441

thats the game i want,please?
i want to play it naw,its wonderful,thanks

Added 3rd Mar 2012, ID #120043

music while the mom died freaked me out!!!
P.S: what happens to betsy tell me plz!

Added 25th Feb 2012, ID #118149

The sims seires is awesome!! Sim babies are sooo cute!! If u have any q's just type in Charlie and i'll try to ansewer!! Bye and have a great day

Added 21st Feb 2012, ID #117167

Is it possible to change the way my child looks and dresse?

Added 12th Feb 2012, ID #114419

My Sims bm has the baby sleeping on the floor..I don't want that, and I can't buy him a crib..so how do I take the baby away from his mom???...lol

Added 6th Feb 2012, ID #112825

My teen's won't study, there is no longer and option for the parent to
'tell' them to -Do homework

Added 1st Feb 2012, ID #111196

you all played the sim right now.

Added 22nd Jan 2012, ID #108439

i have the ds version (cant get kids) i have just got the sims 3 im hoping its better, but i dont want my sim to die is their a cheat - great guide tho
but i guess i cant say anything i havent played the sims 3 yet....

Added 18th Jan 2012, ID #107072

In the Sims 3 for 3DS boys can get married to boys lol!!!

Added 16th Jan 2012, ID #106442

That was great advice.... thanks

Added 5th Jan 2012, ID #102945

if u already hav a sim tho an they don't hav a dad .. after u hav added the person u want 2 be there dad to active family using testingcheatsenabled true ( shift + click on sim) how can u make them the sims dad on ther family tree or on ther realtionships status?????


Added 9th Dec 2011, ID #93668

How long does it take for your toddler to grow up and be a child

Added 5th Dec 2011, ID #93012

In the sims 3 how do you keep your sims from aging is their some kind of cheat

Added 27th Nov 2011, ID #90806


Added 25th Nov 2011, ID #90092

no the social worker don't take her away when the parent died the kids will take care of the self and will get privilage to throw party at a place they will take care of they self till they get older that happened to me before that how i know it hope i help

Added 23rd Nov 2011, ID #89488

you cannot have kids on the ds

Added 12th Oct 2011, ID #79813

Can yu have kidsz on ds?

Added 7th Oct 2011, ID #78805

i dont really think this is the sims 3 i think its the sims 2

Added 3rd Sep 2011, ID #72152

when an elder on my family died, the grim reaper took the life of that elder, then...... the grim reaper stayed a while on my family's house and played with a toddler (i mean, he was watching that toddler playing the xylophones and enjoyed it!) on my family! and he also chatted and joked with a child like the other sim did.
really, it made me laugh...
i think that the grim reaper loves children..

Added 2nd Sep 2011, ID #71913

it helped but that is for the compter not the wii or ds mine never has a baby it is a toddler

Added 21st Aug 2011, ID #68919

how do you try for baby im at woohoo. and i have my sim have woohoo for a really long time now.

Added 1st Aug 2011, ID #63308

well if any one wants to know how to make them so they never die from hunger or any thing like that then press shift crlt and c all at once and it also lets you make a better relation ship between your sims

Added 25th Jul 2011, ID #61007

thank you for the help it was very helpful now i can take care of my kid(s)

Added 5th Jul 2011, ID #55078

how long dose it take till your sim saya it wats to have children.

Added 21st Jun 2011, ID #51046

how do you adopt a kid


Added 20th Jun 2011, ID #50690


Added 7th Jun 2011, ID #47509

very helpful. they had a baby quite late, she was nearly an elder! i feel sorry for betsy because she was only a child when her mum died and her dads an elder. I wonder what happens if both of the parents die while shes a child, does the social worker take her away? Anyway very helpful guide!

Added 6th Jun 2011, ID #47365

I have two young adult sims with 10 girls but thier parents took six

Added 22nd Apr 2011, ID #39060

can u have kids in the ds version?

Added 5th Apr 2011, ID #35922

can you have kids on the DS version?

Added 27th Feb 2011, ID #30780

Will all of these work for Sims 3 on the Wii as well?

Added 26th Feb 2011, ID #30599

Very Helpful Guide.

Added 8th Jan 2011, ID #24522

I made 2 sims,,1 female,,1 male(both teenagers),,and 1 female but young adult..they are just dormates..and then..until the 2 teenagers became young adult..and got married at that age..then have a baby..and so on..if the baby is born can i make him/her a baby forever..???

Added 1st Jan 2011, ID #23638


Added 29th Dec 2010, ID #23058

In the game I have a boy, the father and my sim are dating, I ask the father to come over, he says he will come, but never shows up, is this a glitch or is he really just ditching me?

Added 29th Dec 2010, ID #23033