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The Sims 3 Walkthrough and Guide

by Mike Hazleton  

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The Sims 3 Guide - Life Guide



Starting a family in The Sims 3 is still a pretty easy thing to do. Pick your Sim and chat them up, using the guide above. It will probably take a few days to really get them on-side, but you shouldn't feel you have to wait too long before making any serious commitments – things move a lot faster in the game than in real life! It is possible to get along with most Sims in the game, regardless of personal differences – as long as you avoid offending them.

Of course, you can create a family when you first start the game, but sowing the seeds of a great family dynasty in the game is by far the most interesting way to go about it. To show that you are serious about a relationship, use the romantic conversation actions to progress.

Building up a steamy relationship is crucial if you hope to start a family.

Both of these can nudge your relationship into the world of romance, as opposed to the doldrums of friendship. If your Sim is rejected, change the subject and give romance with the target a miss for a while – they can start to think your Sim is a stalker if you persist for too long! Friendships can take a real hit if you don't accept how the other person feels early enough. Sure, you can try again, just not right away.

Once the relationship reaches the romantic stage, use more compliments, hugs and kisses to move it onto the next level: Love.

Use the Propose Going Steady action to make you and your love interest partners. At this stage, such a move rarely fails – just make sure you are on a role with romantic actions in the conversation before attempting it.

You can then Propose Marriage, and either Have Private Marriage (use the action on your partner) or Get Married (while at a party you have thrown) to make it official.

Having Children:

The best indicator that both parties want to have children come with Wishes – they'll tell you they want children. You can of course set it in motion as soon as the Try For Baby action appears in the menu (once one Sim thinks the other is Irresistible (in the top-left corner, Try for Baby and WooHoo actions open up). After this is complete, you will then (if successful, as indicated by a positive noise shortly afterwards) have to deal with pregnancy for a few days.

TIP: Having problems conceiving? There is a Fertility Lifetime Reward that you can buy from the Lifetime Rewards menu. This increases the chance of conception and of having twins or triplets.

Like in real life, pregnant Sims are prone to mood swings, depression, ecstasy and physical changes in their appearance.

Pregnancy Tips:

While much of what happens during the pregnancy, such as the number of children (i.e. twins or triplets), the traits of the baby and its gender are down to chance, there are some things you can do during the pregnancy to swing fate in your favour.

Twins and Triplets: Listen to children's radio and watch children's TV.

Boy or Girl: Eating lots of apples boosts your chances of having a boy, whereas watermelon does the same for girls.

Traits: Keeping the mother happy and reading the pregnancy books available at Divisadero Books (the mother and father may have wishes to read these too) allows you to pick the traits at birth. Depending on how well the pregnancy went, you can pick both, one, or none of the traits. Disastrous pregnancies will lead to negative traits being picked by the evil computer.

Having a baby may only take a few days in The Sims 3, but the experience will stay with your Sims for the rest of their lives – and the nature of the pregnancy will stay with the child.

TIP: Sims in the Medical profession can offer advice to mothers-to-be to help it all go more smoothly.

TIP: You can also adopt babies, children and teens in The Sims 3. Select the Adoption Service from the telephone's Services menu to start this off.

Age Transitions


Babies are pretty easy to look after in The Sims 3. The hardest thing is trying to keep your adult Sims happy while being woken up at very inconvenient times every night. Make sure you put the baby to sleep when it's tired, change it when it's dirty, and feed it when it's hungry. There is little else to worry about at this stage – babies can't really do much in The Sims 3, though you can play with it and give it attention.

TIP: Don't ignore your baby or the Social Worker may come round – they can even take your baby away!

The age transition from baby to toddler is one of The Sims 3's most remarkable moments.


Toddler is the first really crucial stage in a child's development. As they can crawl around, toys come into play and can keep toddlers amused for hours. The main things you need to worry about at this point are:

Teaching your child to walk
Teaching your child to talk
Teach your child to use the potty

All three of these can be achieved using actions while interacting with your child. Unlike babies however, they do care about how much fun they are having – so make sure you buy them enough toys and give them plenty of attention.

The reason teaching toddlers the crucial life skills is so important is because it allows you to pick their third trait (the other two are picked depending on how well the pregnancy went, at birth). If you fail to teach the skills to your child, the chances are this third trait (which is then picked automatically), will be negative. Buy the First Step Potty Chair to allow potty training to take place.

TIP: Other Sims seem to enjoy interacting with toddlers as much as the child enjoys the attention!

Teaching a toddler the basics of life is absolutely essential for their success later on in life.


School comes into play during the Child stage, and a parent's interactions begin to have a much greater effect on the child. Ensuring that your child does their homework allows them to get an A at school, and such high achievers can then pick their next Trait when the age transition occurs.

Children can now also make real friends. They can leave the house to visit friends, other lots, and of course school, and are able to look after themselves to a good degree. Children can also learn the Fishing and Painting skills.

TIP: Every stage in development is crucial to building up a healthy relationship with their parents.


The most unpredictable age, as many will attest to, teenagers in the Sims can take part-time jobs as well as suffering from all the responsibilities of a child at school. They can also learn all the skills in the game. Teenagers can have romantic relationships, though only to a certain extent. Once again, grades must be kept high to achieve the final trait choice.

TIP: A teen's rebellious streak can be nurtured by keeping them out after the 23:00 curfew.

Children and teenagers both have the responsibilities of school to deal with.


Teenagers are in school for one hour less than children, finishing at 14:00, making more time for the important part-time jobs and socialising. Students can also work on their homework at school, sleep in class and make friends while at school. By far the best way to get good grades, however, is to Work Hard and do homework at home and on time!

Children and teenagers can also get detention from cheating on homework or sleeping in class!

Much like jobs, children can receive and make the most of various opportunities at school.

Keep the good grades up and the child can make it onto the Honor Roll (three days of straight As). Doing homework every night using the book in the child's inventory is the biggest contributor to good grades. Failing to do so will see grades drop. Adults can also help children with their homework, and those with the Logic skill complete it quicker. If the development of your child was good, they will often do the homework voluntarily. Trying to get a disobedient child to do so is a great deal more difficult!

Young Adult and Adult:

Basically everything in this guide thus far is relevant to adults. There is nothing they can't do, but preparing for old age should be a goal after the Young Adult stage has been passed. Ensuring your Sim has a good pension, a supportive family and a good quality of life are all crucial for the next transition.

Retirement gives Elders the chance to appreciate the finer things in life.


Surprisingly, Elder Sims can do everything that adults can, including careers – so you haven't lost your chance to achieve that Lifetime Wish for your Sim once they reach this stage.

TIP: Use Life Fruits (eat them), Ambrosia (eat it) and Death Blossoms (keep it in your inventory to give to the Grim Reaper) to help keep away from death's door for a little longer.

Death is, naturally, the final stage of life, even in The Sims 3.

TIP: Change the aging speed in the game's menu to make each of these last much longer. Sometimes things move a little too quickly at the default speed to really enjoy.


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Dec 3rd 2014 Guest
How do you edit the relationship of an adopted child? I adopted 3 boys and 2 of which I used the dads phone to do and the other with the mothers phone. When I look at their relationship it says the 2 I used the dads phone for are his kids and the one is the moms kid. How do I change it so that all 3 boys are brothers and share both the mom and dad?
ID #480005
Oct 31st 2014 Guest
love how the maid just goes back to making the bed lol .. All in a days work!!
ID #465482
Oct 29th 2014 Guest
Not being rude, just saying that you can't adopt teens in the game. Babies, Toddlers, and Children only.
ID #464877
Mar 27th 2014 Guest
the video when a sim died wasn't that creepy, but the music made it a little scarier than it is
ID #368761
Mar 17th 2014 Guest
Any tips?
ID #365427
Jan 4th 2013 Guest
the last video was sooo creepy, but great tutorials thanks!!
ID #236749
Dec 5th 2012 Guest
that was freken crazy that death guy vocie
ID #215424
Nov 23rd 2012 cutecute808
she had to see that and plus wat does death guy do?!?! at least i wasnt maid otherwise id freak out!
ID #211728
Nov 18th 2012 Guest
well Betsy went to the death door which is very very dark and boring and the maid got married to jack and jack died so the maid was so lonely she killed herself with a butcher Knife but the Grim just punched her in the face at 3:00 am in the morning and he killed her with his spear thingie

The End
ID #209806
Oct 16th 2012 grainneskehan12
it will be fun
ID #197096
Oct 5th 2012 Guest
i am going to having fun
ID #191704
Sep 24th 2012 Guest
i think it will be fun.
ID #188743
Aug 21st 2012 Guest
I would just love to say if You want a successful family,every member should have lucky, friendly, genius,and flirty. The last is probably your liking.
ID #178641
Mar 20th 2012 Guest
betsy was still a child when the mum died and when the dad got old !
ID #124693
Mar 8th 2012 Guest
i would luv to be in this and i am
ID #121441
Mar 3rd 2012 Guest
thats the game i want,please?
i want to play it naw,its wonderful,thanks
ID #120043
Feb 25th 2012 Guest
music while the mom died freaked me out!!!
P.S: what happens to betsy tell me plz!
ID #118149
Feb 21st 2012 Guest
The sims seires is awesome!! Sim babies are sooo cute!! If u have any q's just type in Charlie and i'll try to ansewer!! Bye and have a great day
ID #117167
Feb 12th 2012 Guest
Is it possible to change the way my child looks and dresse?
ID #114419
Feb 6th 2012 Guest
My Sims bm has the baby sleeping on the floor..I don't want that, and I can't buy him a how do I take the baby away from his mom???
ID #112825
Feb 1st 2012 Guest
My teen's won't study, there is no longer and option for the parent to
'tell' them to -Do homework
ID #111196
Jan 22nd 2012 Guest
you all played the sim right now.
ID #108439
Jan 18th 2012 Guest
i have the ds version (cant get kids) i have just got the sims 3 im hoping its better, but i dont want my sim to die is their a cheat - great guide tho
but i guess i cant say anything i havent played the sims 3 yet....
ID #107072
Jan 16th 2012 PokePuppy
In the Sims 3 for 3DS boys can get married to boys lol!!!
ID #106442
Jan 5th 2012 Guest
That was great advice.... thanks
ID #102945
Dec 9th 2011 Guest
if u already hav a sim tho an they don't hav a dad .. after u hav added the person u want 2 be there dad to active family using testingcheatsenabled true ( shift + click on sim) how can u make them the sims dad on ther family tree or on ther realtionships status?????

ID #93668
Dec 5th 2011 Guest
How long does it take for your toddler to grow up and be a child
ID #93012
Nov 27th 2011 Guest
In the sims 3 how do you keep your sims from aging is their some kind of cheat
ID #90806
Nov 25th 2011 Guest
ID #90092
Nov 23rd 2011 Guest
no the social worker don't take her away when the parent died the kids will take care of the self and will get privilage to throw party at a place they will take care of they self till they get older that happened to me before that how i know it hope i help
ID #89488
Oct 12th 2011 Guest
you cannot have kids on the ds
ID #79813
Oct 7th 2011 Guest
Can yu have kidsz on ds?
ID #78805
Sep 3rd 2011 Guest
i dont really think this is the sims 3 i think its the sims 2
ID #72152
Sep 2nd 2011 Guest
when an elder on my family died, the grim reaper took the life of that elder, then...... the grim reaper stayed a while on my family's house and played with a toddler (i mean, he was watching that toddler playing the xylophones and enjoyed it!) on my family! and he also chatted and joked with a child like the other sim did.
really, it made me laugh...
i think that the grim reaper loves children..
ID #71913
Aug 21st 2011 Guest
it helped but that is for the compter not the wii or ds mine never has a baby it is a toddler
ID #68919
Aug 1st 2011 Guest
how do you try for baby im at woohoo. and i have my sim have woohoo for a really long time now.
ID #63308
Jul 25th 2011 Guest
well if any one wants to know how to make them so they never die from hunger or any thing like that then press shift crlt and c all at once and it also lets you make a better relation ship between your sims
ID #61007
Jul 5th 2011 Guest
thank you for the help it was very helpful now i can take care of my kid(s)
ID #55078
Jun 21st 2011 Guest
how long dose it take till your sim saya it wats to have children.

ID #51046
Jun 20th 2011 Guest
how do you adopt a kid

ID #50690
Jun 7th 2011 Guest
ID #47509
Jun 6th 2011 Guest
very helpful. they had a baby quite late, she was nearly an elder! i feel sorry for betsy because she was only a child when her mum died and her dads an elder. I wonder what happens if both of the parents die while shes a child, does the social worker take her away? Anyway very helpful guide!
ID #47365
Apr 22nd 2011 Guest
I have two young adult sims with 10 girls but thier parents took six
ID #39060
Apr 5th 2011 Guest
can u have kids in the ds version?
ID #35922
Feb 27th 2011 Guest
can you have kids on the DS version?
ID #30780
Feb 26th 2011 Guest
Will all of these work for Sims 3 on the Wii as well?
ID #30599
Jan 8th 2011 Guest
Very Helpful Guide.
ID #24522
Jan 1st 2011 jha01
I made 2 sims,,1 female,,1 male(both teenagers),,and 1 female but young adult..they are just dormates..and then..until the 2 teenagers became young adult..and got married at that age..then have a baby..and so on..if the baby is born can i make him/her a baby forever..???
ID #23638
Dec 29th 2010 Guest
ID #23058
Dec 29th 2010 Guest
In the game I have a boy, the father and my sim are dating, I ask the father to come over, he says he will come, but never shows up, is this a glitch or is he really just ditching me?
ID #23033