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Marriage, Family, and Relationships

While there was a limited attachment system for most of the first year of the game with the March 2012 expansion update the social interactions and level of attachment for couples in FreePlay was expanded considerably, with the game finally adding the mechanisms for getting engaged, moving in with each other, and getting married as well as having children.

With this new expansion to the relationships and noting the confusion that many gamers have had on how the relationship system works (based upon the questions being posted to the game section on including this section and a closer look at the process makes a lot of sense.
Friendship is advanced via the Be Nice Action while Romance has its own set of Actions

Relationship Building

There are basic progressive stages for relationships in the game that can easily be divided up into unique chunks, bringing a three-stage definition to the process. Stage 1 is Friends, Stage 2 is Romance, and finally there is Stage 3, Family and Family Building.Stage 1: Friends
There are four unique phases of the first stage (the initial phase, Stranger, does not really count), and these are:

  • Stranger
  • Acquaintance
  • Friend
  • Good Friend
  • Best Friend

Considering that the first two stages can both be accomplished by using the Be Nice action one time each, they represent a very easy 250 XP for each of your Sims to obtain with each other and, perhaps more important, with every Sim in your Neighbor Towns! That is some easy XP to pick up, just saying.

Stage 2: Romance
The next stage involves the process of creating a lasting bond and attachment for your pair, starting with romance and working your way to marriage. While the idea of needing to be married in order to begin a family has fallen out of favor in the real world, it is still a great idea in the Sim one.

  • Budding Romance
  • Date
  • Partners
  • Engaged
  • Married

In order to get the Stork to deliver children your Sims need to be married. Who says tradition is dead?
Stage 3: Family and Family Building
Once your couple have reached the stage of marriage they are moved in together and are thus in a position to have children, which is accomplished via the baby cradle object, using a combination of Life Points and time.

Once the baby arrives, it will spend virtually all of its time in that cradle until the time comes that you have decided that they should mature to the Toddler Stage, which you accomplish first by baking a Birthday Cake, which is required, and then holding their Birthday Party, an event that instantly resolves in their entry into the next stage, which would be Toddler.

Baking a second cake and having a party is necessary for the next stage, and so on.

A Sample Relationship Path

Lee and Clara moved in together...

The first part of the process and the most obvious to begin with is relationship building. When your Sims first move into town they have no mates, no relationships of any sort, and are in every sense a fresh clean slate.

So your first steps in building relationships in the game should be directed towards simply making friends -- because not only is mateship the doorway to partnership, engagement, and marriage (and eventually kids) it is also a great way to pick up gobs of XP!

So how do we begin? By talking of course!

Whether the potential relationship is represented by another adult Sim -- or by your new baby -- the process of building a relationship with them starts with communicating with them, in order to move through the different stages of relations, which encompass the following:

  • Stranger (N/A XP)
  • Acquaintance ( 100 XP) -- Adds the "Hand Shake" action.
  • Friend ( 150 XP)
  • Good Friend ( 200 XP)
  • Best Friend ( 300 XP)
  • Budding Romance ( 150 XP) -- Adds the "Kiss Hand" action.
  • Date ( 200 XP) -- Adds the "Kiss Cheek" action.
  • Partner ( 250 XP) --- Adds the "Woohoo" action.
  • Matrimony (350 XP)

Reaching Good Friend Level
When the Good Friend level has been attained it also adds the "Ask to Move In" selection, and the "Bro Hug" selection to the available interactions. Obviously the Ask to Move In selection is of more importance to us than the Bro Hug selection... I am just saying...

Reaching Best Friend Level
Once you have reached the Best Friend level you add the "Chest Bump" action. This is also a stopping point for regular relations as simply Being Nice is insufficient to raise the relationship level further -- to move above this point requires that the Sims make gestures and actions that enter into the love side of relationships -- which means either Be Romantic, or Dance, or both.

Reaching Partner Level
It requires a fair but of work to raise your Sim relationship to the Partner Level, but getting there bringsyou very close to the ultimate goal of being married - and in fact the real goal as well since once you get your Sim relationship to this level that is one of the goals that will pop up.

Maxing out the Partner Level adds the action "Propose Marriage" to the selections, so that is obviously your goal.

Once you have reached the Partner Level the next step in the process of relationship building is the obvious one of taking it "to the next level" by moving in together!

Ideally you should probably max-out the Partner level first just to make things quicker -- or not... It is really six of one, half-a-dozen of another, right?

You have the option of moving in together as Partners, or you can go the more traditional route and propose marriage prior to moving in together, though your intended will want you to pop the question at your house so that they can see what it looks like before they say yes :)

Once you select the Propose Marriage action you are presented with a choice of Engagement Rings that you can present to your beloved, which include:

  • Vending Machine Dinosaur Ring ($5,500)
  • Mood Ring ($16,500)
  • Silver Ring (5 Life Points)
  • White Gold Ring (10 Life Points)
  • Eternity Ring (20 Life Points)

Fair warning about the ring -- you have to purchase it before you propose -- and if the ring does not meet the quality of your intended they will simply throw their hands up and not accept -- which leaves you out the cost of the ring and having to buy another (better) ring if you mean to try again...

Popping the Question with Feeling
Following your marriage you have the option of placing a baby cradle and then ordering your first born from the Stork -- a process that costs a large chunk of Life Points!

The cost of the first baby you obtain in the game is actually paid for as a sort of gift for you, with the game providing the Life Points that you need as well as a few extra since the process of getting married and having a baby are also Goals that are presented in a timely fashion so that you get to experience the joy of becoming a parent without it breaking you...

Of course any future babies will cost you Life Points you have to supply yourself!
Relationship status is just the start - creating a comfortable home with enough activity objects is also important.

Relationship Building Menu Selections

In the case of an adult Sim the options that you can choose from for positive relations take the form of chat and actions:

  • Ask to Move In (7 Seconds) 7 XP
  • Be Funny (10 Seconds) 15 XP
  • Be Nice (1 Minute) 30 XP
  • Be Romantic (1 Minute) 30 XP
  • Bro Hug (4 Seconds) 7 XP
  • Chest Bump (1 Second) 7 XP
  • Dance (10 Seconds) 15 XP
  • Hand Shake (2 Seconds) 7 XP
  • High-Five (1 Second) 7 XP
  • Kiss Cheek (2 Seconds) 7 XP
  • Kiss Hand (3 Seconds) 7 XP
  • Propose Marriage (0 Seconds) 0 XP
  • Woohoo (5 Minutes) 15 XP

Negative actions include:

  • Be Rude (10 Seconds) 15 XP
  • Complain (1 Minute) 30 XP

Editing your new Bundle 'O Joy
In the case of parent or adult and baby, the available selections are:

  • Cuddle (1 Minute) 33 XP
  • Entertain (1 Minute) 33 XP
  • Give Food (1 Minute) 33 XP
  • Change Diaper (8 Seconds) 3 XP

Being a Jody / Jodi

An interesting effect that you find in the game is when you have a Sim (male OR female) take their relationship beyond just Best Friends with another Sim (again, male OR female) who already has a Partner or Spouse is that, whether you know or have a relationship with their spouse or not, every positive level in relationship you gain with the Sim you are romancing, you gain an equal amount of hate from their partner/spouse.

So it seems that the game maintains a full connection between relations, even when your Sim is visiting a Neighbor's town and romancing!

BTW the Jody / Jodi reference is a military thing - when a guy wants to rag on another guy, they will mention that Jody is back home making it with their girl...

Raising Your Kids

When babies were first added to the game that was pretty much all that was there - babies. They laid in their crib, they could be interacted with, but that was all that there was to it.

Eventually the childhood code was added to the game though, so now once your infant has been alive for a certain amount of time, you can bake a Birthday Cake, have a Birthday Party, and they will mature to the next stage of their life.

The addition of the Kids Store in the game expands the options for things to buy them and things for them to do.

Once you get them to mature they can start attending school - assuming you have built one that is! You should seriously think about doing that.

And with that we nicely wrap up this section on relationships -- and now it is time for you to ask your significant other to marry you, move in, and help you make a call to the Stork!

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My sims are stuck at being partners and the bar is all pink, do you know what i can do to get them to be engaged?

Added 16th Nov 2015, ID #625693

same problem please tell what to do

Added 24th Nov 2015, ID #628019

U press propose marriage and they get to become partners

Added 25th Nov 2015, ID #628389

I am trying to complete the 'Love is in the air' quest but it won't go past the 'Form a budding Romance' part despite the fact they're already partners please help:/

Added 1st Nov 2015, ID #621490

You have to find another sim to become a budding romance with. It doesn't pick up on the fact that they are already past that stage.

Added 2nd Nov 2015, ID #621856

Help! I can't get my sims to make the double shot coffee. Please help me.😭

Added 24th Oct 2015, ID #619445

Just keep on being romanticπŸ₯πŸ₯πŸ₯

Added 31st Aug 2015, ID #604117

I can't make the double shot coffee!
Help me

Added 24th Oct 2015, ID #619434

Yeah I can't really do it thnx!!😭

Added 1st Oct 2015, ID #613042

How do you get the Sims to go out of there houses and speak to another?

Added 26th Aug 2015, ID #602564

Go to town map and then tap on the persons house you want to go to

Added 19th Sep 2015, ID #609723

How do I get passed the bff zone if I click be rude or complain it will go up but if I click be nice or be funny it will go down.. When I click complain and I'm almost done it will go back to good friend

Added 14th Aug 2015, ID #597944

How are we supposed to know it's your device?

Added 16th Aug 2015, ID #598924

Please HELP

How do you get out of the best friend stage?

When I make them be nice or funny the bar goes down not up!?!😞😞
And when I make them be rude or complain the bar goes up once but then I do it again then it goes down!!??πŸ˜“πŸ˜“πŸ˜“πŸ˜“

Added 5th Aug 2015, ID #593938

Where is the home store

Added 28th Jul 2015, ID #590349

I can't get past the bf zone someone help!? :(

Added 3rd Jul 2015, ID #579426

You have to do follow all your quote s

Added 18th Aug 2015, ID #599703

Wow Thnks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that HELPED A LOT :D

Added 18th Jun 2015, ID #572133

You have to get married first then you can find the wedding bundle in the wadrobe

Added 26th May 2015, ID #561502


Added 13th May 2015, ID #555804

Just to let u know this cite is so freakin useful and I'm really thankful for it thanks

Added 11th May 2015, ID #554993

How do you get more LP because I need 4 more to grow my baby up. I haven't played sims freeplay for ages and normally they give you 5 because they say 'Are you having trouble completing your quest? Let us top up your LP for you...' But they did not do that!!! I want to grow my baby up to a teen one day because my daughter (in the game) is a teen and I want them two to date. Please help I would totally appreciate it. Thank you!

Added 4th May 2015, ID #551638

Why won't my sim parents interact with their baby?

Added 6th Apr 2015, ID #538802

[video][/video u are so stupid

Added 6th Jul 2015, ID #580723

To get the marriage bar up, you have to do negative actions. Once it is filled, that's it. You can't go any further.

Added 6th Apr 2015, ID #538673

How do you get passed bff zone?

Added 6th Apr 2015, ID #538552

I can't get past the best friend stage what do I do someone help me plz

Added 28th Mar 2015, ID #534049

First you have to complete the money grows on trees quest & then you will complete the love is in the air quest to make the sims start having a romantic relationship with one another.

Added 28th Apr 2015, ID #549141

Thank you so much 🍻
Added 25th Aug 2015, ID #602346

Just keep doing stuff to your sims or taking them to work or just collating non the town map

Added 28th Apr 2015, ID #549048

All my floor has turned blue plz help!!

Added 17th Mar 2015, ID #529836

This means you've changed the colour of the carpet

Added 14th Jun 2015, ID #570165

Okay so I noticed that if two sims are married or in a romantic relationship & they aren't romantic with each other for a while the relationship bar turns from pinkish to blue which means still partners but only friendly BORING how can I get my relationships back romantic I keep doing romantic gestures but nothing is happening

Added 11th Mar 2015, ID #527313

That's happening to me too!

Added 26th Jun 2015, ID #575991

I can't get the marriage bar up or in my tool bar I can't finger baby crib

Added 22nd Feb 2015, ID #519870

But after their married thine how do you get the bar to go all the way up thet says married please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!

think you (:

Added 21st Feb 2015, ID #519401

Use the action complain but then that's as far as it goes up

Added 9th May 2015, ID #554077

Ok somehow I made a baby and I forgot to give it a last name , and when I made the baby some it got transferred to another Sims house that is not married, is a single and a male. I have no idea how to move the baby sim out to it original family. My grown-up Sim in that house with the baby ,the guy I moved him out so now I have a baby (in crib) living on its own and I don't know how to move a baby and it's still in the crib and I have no idea how to put it back to its original family it just transferred it to a different Sims house.

Added 19th Feb 2015, ID #518267

Wow I am so sorry

Added 26th Jun 2015, ID #575993

I can't get my sims onto the budding romance part if you can help it would be much appreciated thanks

Added 16th Feb 2015, ID #516739

How do starters get to the main store

Added 15th Feb 2015, ID #516584

If you have a baby and then get divorced and move with a friend well the baby move with you and your friend are stay in the house

Added 14th Feb 2015, ID #516125

how do you get the marrige bar up?

Added 12th Feb 2015, ID #515082

Help!!!! I was promised a wedding bundle if I got my sims married in a certain number of hours, I did but I can't find the bundle!!! Please help me!!

Added 9th Feb 2015, ID #513838

the wedding bundle is supposed to be in your wardrobe or a closet. Once you click on the closet/wardrobe click on the Browse Clothes. Hope that helps

Added 12th Jun 2015, ID #569395

Wi have been doing all the stuff but every time I do be nice it dose not go like up on the best friend

Added 8th Feb 2015, ID #513601

if you become good friends with your child, will the relationship go futher than that I don't want that to happen.

Added 7th Feb 2015, ID #512821

I can't get past the the best friend lvl
FYI I'm talkin about a girl πŸ˜‚

Added 1st Feb 2015, ID #510312

My sims are stuck on bestfriend the bar want even move. What do I do?

Added 26th Jan 2015, ID #507626

My sims can not be romantic to each other It says I have to complete a qeast on level 7 witch is love is in the air and I am on level 15 PLEASE HELP me with this problem

Added 12th Oct 2015, ID #616020

My sims are stuck at being partners and the bar is all pink, do you know what i can do to get them to be engaged?

Added 21st Jan 2015, ID #505157

Umm how do u turn my toddlers to preteens

Added 15th Jan 2015, ID #501757

You have to wait for the quest that lets your toddlers turn into preteens

Added 26th Jun 2015, ID #575994


Added 6th Jan 2015, ID #497101

to make the marriage bar go up, you have to have kids

Added 3rd Jan 2015, ID #495425

Help!!!! I was promised a wedding bundle if I got my sims married in a certain number of hours, I did but I can't find the bundle!!! Please help me!!! 😿😿😿

Added 3rd Jan 2015, ID #495278

How do you get three sims in a house. I've tried but im completely stuck

Added 3rd Jan 2015, ID #495270

How do I make the Married Sims relationship bar go up in blue!!!

Added 31st Dec 2014, ID #493392

I need help. My sims relationship is at partners but my task says keep being romantic untill I form a budding romance , I've done this loads nuffin happends what do I need to do to get to the next stage thanks.

Added 26th Dec 2014, ID #490311

Do it on another sim

Added 26th Jun 2015, ID #576002

How do you delete sims or can you not

Added 25th Dec 2014, ID #489969

If you want to delete the sim you have to be controlling it that moment then you click on the character your controlling and there's a button at the right top corner then it says are you sure you want this sim to move out of town if you click yes it deletes your character

Added 26th Jun 2015, ID #576000

I can't seem to go past partner stage. I have tried it on 2 different couples but still can't get past it. Please reply. Thanks

Added 23rd Dec 2014, ID #488744

Um when I try to build my partner level up it starts to freeze up and I wonder if that the game is messed up or am I doing something wrong myself so can you please reply back I wold appeticate a lot thank you kind people

Added 22nd Dec 2014, ID #488474

My sims won't make the fancy coffee

Added 20th Dec 2014, ID #487402

You buy cribs at the home store under the baby section
The highest relationship for couples are partners
Siblings cant date and toddlers cant date
You have to propose then get engaged then get married and your partner moves in automatically
To place a stack of magazine you need a place to put like a table

Added 17th Dec 2014, ID #485992

It won't let me past partners and it won't let me chest bump

Added 14th Dec 2014, ID #484338

my sims are engaded and now i cant get married and have children what do i do and it also i am on the love is in the air and i made 2 sims move in with each other and now it said it again and i am cofused. somebody please HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Added 10th Dec 2014, ID #482986

You have to fill the engaged bar up to get married

Added 26th Jun 2015, ID #576003

If you divorce sims do you still keep the children

Added 5th Dec 2014, ID #480606

I have my two sims married and a baby but my married sims can't improve the relationship exept for when I have them be rude to each other and the option of getting divorced pops up does this just take time or do I have to keep making them do romantic things

Added 4th Dec 2014, ID #480356

Ok I have to toddlers but the quests aren't coming at the level I am supposed to so i have loads of quests in waiting and I am on level 23 and I haven't even got preteens yet because I only just got my toddlers. I really like the sims freeplay even if I don't get my quests on time.

Added 1st Dec 2014, ID #479024

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